If a man wants to be my Dom, he better be a man worthy of my respect. He better do all the dirty, nasty things in vanilla life (clean toilets, scrub floors, work his ass off, pay bills, be a good dad, a safe boyfriend/husband/man, well read, well spoken, slow to speak, slow to anger, etc. etc.) before he is going to dominate me. Because I have done all those things and more alone as a single mom, but I have yet to find a man that can say he does that shit. Yet, many a man, let’s say boy, wants to exude his power over me when he can’t clean out a fucking litter box. Never would I let a man gag me on his dick if I didn’t know that he would clean up the vomit and clean me up in after care. -jaded single mom close to giving up. Maybe I’m not cut out for this shit.