So the wife and I have been on a sexual journey of exploration over the last year and the wife has discovered she has a kink for the Dom/sub dynamic but unfortunately she doesn't see me in the Dom position. Can't say that I blame her, my dynamic is more like daddy/gg because I like to be sweet and tender with a side of punishment.

Our rules are that we can not play alone, dates are allowed but sexual contact is not allowed without the other present. Although I have given her permission to play with the dom/sub dynamic as long as sex isn't taking place. Which I've read is somewhat common with professional dommes.

So here is the rub. The wife met a guy on a dating app who is very dominant, she feels naturally submissive to him and she's interested in playing with him. However, I've told her no sex and she can't stay over. The guy seems very controlling in how things have to happen, she must stay over night, I can't know their location, and I can't meet or talk to him.

To me this sounds more like a guy with a kink for fucking with married couples and not what I would consider a normal dom/sub relationship. Am I wrong? Do most doms respect the couples rules and dynamics? Since this is new, I'm just looking for the red flags I should be aware of.