Hi all!

My partner (45m) and I (34f) have been on and off for three years. We are starting to get into a routine and it’s boring.

We both really love BDSM but I want more than him.

I’m just looking for new things try that may even be vanilla, so we can dial the BDSM back but maybe not fully give it up. Even some new milder things that may change the constant fight and roughness.

Currently we often do CNC play, I’m the submissive, face slapping, choking, hair pulling, face/mouth spitting, fisting is a big kink of his and it does feel good, edging/teasing…

He doesn’t like being slapped, spit on, or choked. He is interested in exploring pegging where I take the lead. I am a bit uneasy about it, but I’m willing to try.

I’m not really interested in RP like doctor or PT

My limits are permanent marks, appearance modifications, sexual little space, scat, water-sports, blood, body shaming, public play.

We are both monogamous so another person is a mutual limit.

Article’s suggest things like “keep the lights on!” “Try a spanking! Or blindfold” “experiment with a new position”

Nothing really that helpful.