I’ve been exploring the BDSM world for a while now, but I’m starting to question where I really fit in. I absolutely love being submissive being tied up, blindfolded, and having my boundaries pushed in just the right way. But here’s the catch: I’m not into pain at all. In fact, I avoid it whenever possible.

I also have a bit of a complicated relationship with certain aspects of play. For example, I find the idea of CNC incredibly hot, but only if it’s done with strict respect for my boundaries. I enjoy the psychological aspects of power dynamics, the thrill of giving up control, but I’m not into anything that causes physical discomfort or crosses certain personal limits.

So, I’m left wondering does this mean I’m still part of the BDSM community, or am I veering into more of a vanilla zone? Is it possible to be deeply submissive and still have these preferences, or does it mean I’m looking for something else entirely?

I’d love to hear from others who might feel the same way or have insights to share. Is it okay to pick and choose which elements of BDSM work for you, or does that dilute the experience? I’m curious to know where others draw the line.