By popular demand - and to stop y'all from sending me pm's asking me how it played out - here's an update on my previous post.

As many doms have rightly pointed out the downsides of a personal confrontation, I decided to send her a registered letter (that she'll have to sign for). This way I can at least be sure that she'll receive and read my demand that she stops this. I'm sure it will help my case, when I have to turn to the authorities at a later moment. Check out the letter here.

Many commenters have expressed doubts that the messages I've received are genuine: they're sure it's my ex sending them. 5 of the 14 people have messaged me under their own name and are easily verifiable. Two more I can trace back to real people. The other 7 I'm not sure about, but their choice of words doesn't strike me as hers. I could be wrong there, of course.

You've also told me to message the guys, telling them to leave me alone and passing that message on to her. I'm happy to tell you that was the first thing I did (after the fourth guy). It didn't make any difference.

Please don't send me any chat requests just asking 'What did you end up doing?'. But if you have experience with something similar and don't feel comfortable sharing in a comment, feel free to reach out. I've had a couple of very nice conversations.