So I know this is gonna sound terrible but I HAD a dom I had been seeing for like 1.5 years, on and off it was pretty serious and we saw one another frequently. He’s 32, I met him when I was 19. We both had very corporate and professional jobs but we met on tinder of all places and things just took off from there he lived out of state probably an hour away. It only really worked well because he worked near me but anyway we would see one another on lunch often and he would book a place for us to meet and play like once a month or sometimes more often.

I had no idea he was married until like six months in and we stopped talking for probably 3 months after that. He texted me and I really just gave in got back with him. We had our relationship listed on fet and frequently posted things together. Regardless things were going really really good. Here’s where I really fuck it all up, I told him “hey I have feelings for you”. I only told him because you know why wouldn’t I, I do have feelings for him. He also said he had feelings for me and that he loved me, but I think I knew deep down he didn’t. Because if he did, he wouldn’t be married right?

Anyway, we started seeing each other less frequently the past two months and things just got super weird like he started telling me he likes boys and wants to be fucked by guys wants to find guys to fuck him. Things just took a different turn. Obviously I still cared about him. I was basically completely fine with that I think I told him something along the line of “yeah if you wanna swing with other guys, I’m fine w/ it”.

After that we switched more to an open relationship and when I started seeing other people he loved it. Things were great, but I saw a guy last night and I texted him about it because he wants to know when I see other guys and how it goes and stuff. But something was different when I told him this time he was not with it like he had been previously. He basically just dumped me, said and I quote “he’s your new dom, you’ll be happier with him”. Like excuse me what the actual fuck?

I think I knew things were gonna end just based on his behavior but still I still feel heartbroken. I’m not sure how to continue after this. I always knew that eventually I would need to find a “real dom” because he was definitely not that. I just feel so conflicted, how do I even move forward from this? He wants to stay friends but I can’t do that not at all. He knows it I know it and I know he’s lying he is a habitual liar, I’ll be blocked by the morning lmao.

I feel stupid through and through he truly brought out the worst in me. It was honestly not an ideal relationship or situationship at that even. If you’ve listened to the worst in me by bad omens that’s like how I feel currently. We honestly just used one another for that high feeling after a good intense scene, I think towards the end I’ve begun to resent him. There was never aftercare and I felt very much like an object which I like but I didn’t feel loved cared for or valued in our relationship.