My potential Dom is poly and is going to start vetting a new sub (she is experienced in the LS, I'm new). He met her in person last weekend for coffee and last night he called me and set new rules such as, if I get a date, she gets a date, if I get a video chat, she gets a video chat, etc. I explained I thought the video chat thing was a little strict, he agreed to consider that, and that probably it wouldn't be that strict.

I also said I was concerned out time together and communication would get reduced, and that it sounded like he was fast tracking his relationship with her to make things "fair" or "even." He said he had no intention of reducing our time or communication.

I know he spokr with her for 3 hours before talking to me, and I only got a 45 minute call for him to say this, with some chit chat interspersed, and then he announced that he was going to take the rest of the evening and today, tuesday, for himself as a self care day. He definitely needs it and deserves it but I feel like I've just been hit by a ton of bricks and haven't been able to process it, or talk about it with him at all, and now he is MIA (he is checking in on me throughout the day, but not for any real conversation).

We usually talk all the time, and I usually can resch out to him with anything, and All I want to do now is reach out to him and tell him I'm not ok, but I also want to respect his decision for a self care day. Is it fair to reach out and say "I'm not ok. I was hit with a lot of new information and rules and didn't have time to process it but I also want to respect your day off?" Or should I wait until he is available?