Hey BDSM community! I’m a 23-year-old dominant woman, and I’ve been exploring the dom/sub dynamic for a while now. It’s been an incredible journey, but I’m currently struggling to find submissive men to connect with in real life. Arcades have been suggested to me, but I’m looking to broaden my search.

A bit about my background: I’ve always had a dominant side, and it’s something I fully embrace in my relationships. I find deep fulfillment in the trust and connection that comes with the dom/sub dynamic. But lately, it’s been tough finding like-minded submissive men, and it’s left me feeling a bit isolated.

I spend a lot of time at the gym, and I love hanging out in cafes and bookstores, but these haven’t been the most successful places to meet subs. I once tried striking up a conversation about BDSM at a coffee shop, but the guy thought I was inviting him to a tech convention! It was a funny moment, but it also highlighted how challenging it can be to find the right people.

So, I’m turning to this amazing community for advice. Where do you all go to meet submissive men? Are there specific events, clubs, or other establishments that have worked well for you? How do you approach and identify potential subs in these settings?

Additionally, I’d love to hear about any creative ways you’ve met your partners. Any fun or interesting stories would be greatly appreciated! I’m hoping to find some new strategies and maybe even some hope that I’m not alone in this struggle.

TL;DR: I’m a dominant 23-year-old woman looking for suggestions on where to meet submissive men apart from arcades. Any tips on where to go and how to approach would be super helpful. Thanks for listening and for any advice you can share!