I (18m) met a woman (28f) on BDSM Personals. We were both looking for a female led long term relationship and shared a lot of kinks. We shared SFW pictures of ourselves with each other and after she explained a bit more about what she was wanting. Soon after that we agreed on a day that works for both of us to meet and have a session at a BDSM dungeon that we split the cost of to see if we were a good match.

I'm kinda worried things are moving a bit too fast, I don't even know her name. I asked if she would like to meet for lunch before we head for the dungeon and she said yes, but I don't know from the research I've done this is supposed to go slower. I was also worried she was a scammer because she was a older and way more attractive than me but so far she hasn't asked for any money of NSFW pictures.

I'm also worried about logistics. I'm currently looking for a job so money is really tight and she wants to rent a dungeon for the whole day which sounds really expensive to me. I told her since it would be our first time it would make more sense to only do an hour or two but she said she doesn't often get days off and would like to make the most of it. I also don't have a car right now so I would have to borrow my mom's car and she is very religious and wouldn't let me do anything sexual before marriage.

It's so hard to find people in my area that are into femdom let alone a date in general. I've been looking for a long time even though I should have waited. I feel like this is finally a chance and I want desperately not to mess things up but I don't think I'm fully ready.