Me and my partner have been together for 2 1/2 years. We are long distance now but met in person and kink has been an important part of our relationship. We were both kinky before (them so more and more in a sexual way) but we have definitely really discovered ourselfs more with each other. We both are into petplay and have been wearing ears and collars when we are together during play and out and about for basically our whole relationship. But they have always been collars we have gotten ourselves for ourselves and more in a pet way rarher then to show ownership etc. They have always talked about how they would love to be collared someday and how important it is to them. Their last relationship was based on a dynamic with clear sub and dom roles, i have never had that before i had basically zero kink experience with other people before them. They are very much submissive but can we switch as even though i am switch i do prefer submission but i have had to lean more dominent in our relationship because they really struggle with being dominent even though they want to for me. Recently they have asked me to collar them, that they would like me to. But honestly the thought of it scares me and im really unsure what to do. I already have to lean more dominent, which i dont mind but also i dont get to indulge in my submissive side like i would, but im scared if i collar them this would throw the balance off even more. I would be forced into a dynamic that i really don't want because yes i love being the more dominet one sometimes but i dont want that to be the default. Also there feels like a lot of responsibility of collaring someone i know some people do it flippantly but if i was to collar someone i would take it seriously its not just for "show". Im worried about how to bring it up to them as they have been so excited about it and that they feel they are ready to be collared by me. I know they already feel guilty that they cannot give me the type of play or dynamic i desire or give them and don't want to make them feel worse about it. Any advice or insight would be really helpful or if their are people that have been collared/collared their partner but arn't in a defined dynamic i would love to hear your experiences.