I recently found out I am the other woman. A man I had just started dating vie FetLife flew in halfway across the country to have what he said was a date and quality time together, but turned out to be an affair. His behavior suddenly changed and the yellow flags quickly turned into red flags so I posted on one of those Are We Dating The Same Guy groups.

Both his ex girlfriend and a friend of his current girlfriend messaged me and helped reveal the affair privately to the girlfriend. I sent her all of our messages and call logs.

She now wants me to remove the post about him so she can deal with it "privately". But I feel that it should stay up to warm other women. It sounds like maybe she's going to try to patch things over with him which is her choice, even if it's a bad one.

But he's a pathological liar, cheater, and master manipulator who felt no remorse about what he did to me-- leading me on, saying he was single, said we were dating, That I was "his", etc. I circled every instance vie text that he said these things to me.

His ex was even consoling me about the fact that I wasn't crazy. He really was mentally ill, and she shared some of his text messages with me.

Keeping the post up seems like the only way to hold him accountable in both cities where he lives and visits for work. It doesn't dox either of them and the girlfriend isn't named at all. This is the 2nd man who used me for an affair this year.

I also wanted to warn other female community members & event leaders because he goes to play events/gatherings where he Doms but usually doesn't have intercourse.

Thoughts?