I am a switch. Occasionally I’ve been dominant on text and a couple of times in person.

In one incident, the person who was submissive had a degradation kink and wanted to be shamed. I researched and read up and learnt how to do it. And all through the session, I was able to please them. We had a calm time afterwards where I held them and spoke highly of them and showed them a lot of respect and that was the end of the session.

After they left, I felt a lot of guilt, as if I was a horrible person for calling them all those names. I have a degradation kink too when I’m submissive. So I know if I was called all that, I’d have been extremely turned on.

But the guilt of extending that degradation to them as a dom, made me feel horrible and sick.

I haven’t degraded them after that, and we parted ways later for other reasons.

Now, I am talking to someone who likes the degradation. How do I get past the guilt? Was a first time thing? Will it get easier with time? Or should I just tell them that I cannot degrade them?

If someone has been in this situation before, please guide me.