Well, as the title says. I'm a newby to the scene, but enjoy taking control in bed and beyond. I'm really into bondage, but everytime I think about tying knots I laugh like an idiot because as a child I was a scout and by association I find it really funny. How can I get over myself? Are there any online guides on how to do basic knots and how to fixate my sub in place? Which positions are going to be comfortable? Should I start with just tying my partners hands together or to the bed frame?

About impact play. My partner is willing to try getting spanked by me, however I don't trust myself as I'm scared to hit too hard. How do I control my strength? Should I try it out on myself first? Any advice on which paddles or canes to try first?

I also saw a couple of forms you can fill out with different kinks listed. Do we need to fill one out or just take it easy and go with the flow so to speak? There's just so much to do, I can't really choose what to do next.