20 something sub switch guy. I tried joining the kink scene a few years ago and had a pretty abysmal and lonely experience. Maybe against my better judgment I’m trying again but already it feels like the same shit again. Cliques that only want to talk with themselves, couples, personality disorders, weird older guys and no one to do scenes with.

There’s a femdom play party coming up this weekend. In theory it sounds great, I never get to explore my sub side (I desperately want to) but I keep having this sinking feeling that it’s gonna be the same deal and I’ll just end up wasting my money and time in something that’s just going to make me feel shitty again. Has anyone been here before and how’d you get past it?