Please tell me I’m not the only one? Because my journey from first discovering kink in late 2021 to now has been all over the place, from identifying as a switch, then a Domme, then a switch, and now maybe a sub-leaning switch? It’s complicated because I feel very versatile inside and outside the bedroom, but I’ve had to admit to myself that emotionally I need a bedrock of control and leadership from the other person to feel secure, and then build off of that. I feel very shameful and self-conscious of that though because it feels like most Doms have a hard no on ever seriously submitting, and subby or even switchy guys usually seem too passive. It really feels like I don’t belong anywhere….