I’m a male switch (but generally a lot more submissive) in my 20s in LA. I’m not really in this community per se but I had a question and I was wondering if anyone had any insight.

Lately I’ve been really trying to explore my sub side and it’s been very difficult. It feels like female doms are extremely difficult to come across, and it feels like the ones I have come across I have a really difficult time talking to. As much as I try to always be friendly I have a hard time meeting new people (being on the spectrum doesn’t help) and the few times I’ve talked with dommes, even on Feeld or Grindr I for whatever reason I just turn into a massive ball of nerves. I don’t do anything sexually weird or creepy or course but I feel like there’s a discomfort or burst of unconfidence that comes out of me that makes them less eager to talk to me. Is there a way to bridge that, or get over it?