This is long, but its just me getting it off my chest because im so nervous and so excited and id love to hear others experiences too. Also, yes, this is a bdsm club you pay for if anyone is curious, and we have to get full tests max three days before the parties. English also isn't my first language (swedish) but I try to explain it as best I can.

So... my partner and I have joined a swingers club/sex club. At this place, you can sign up to different "courses" I guess you could call it, or groups. We have signed up for the "newbies" one, where it's for people new to the bdsm and swinging scene. So this group we are 16 people, 4 of them are "professionals", not new to the scene and will (as well as being part of the group) work as guidance and mentors of a sort. We have met them all once at a sort of introduction to how it all works, and the schedules, what's expected from us and what we can expect and all of the "formalities" and also just getting to meet everyone.

We will meet two to three times a month, in the group. But we can go to the swingers club anytime since we are members of the club of course. I dont know when we will do that.

One of the people is a dominatrix, and I have never been so taken by a person at first meeting as I was by her. She is maybe in her 50s, she is like, movie star gorgeous, hot woman who knows what she wants and will take it. She and I talked a bit at the first meeting and she seemed very interested in me, I think because I am very petite and small. She asked if she could have a look and feel and I just forced out a yes because she was literally taking my breath away. And she then told me to stand up and took a few steps back, and told me to spin a little. "Stand up straight, girl!" She said and not in an angry way but the way she said it, I immediately just said "yes ma'am" and did as she told me. I still can't believe how she just almost cast a spell over me it was so fantastic to experience and it makes me so excited too.

Q: Has anyone else met someone like this? Is this just how dominatrix are? I have never met one (to my knowledge) before.

She then felt my skin, told me how soft it was, and she squeezed my arms, legs, my stomach, she even put her hands under my armpits and lifted me up, and then holding my waist and lifted me. She did it so effortlessly and I know im only ~50kg but she didn't look like it was any effort at all for her to just lift me, and 50kg is still a lot to lift. It turned me on so much, the way she very methodically analyzed my body.

Q: is this common? It it called something?

I also talked with some of the other couples and I especially professed my dreams of bring with women and the other women there were just as excited as me, and 2 of them were also newly discovered bisexuals and I think it will be so much fun to explore with them. There were also a guy who was a cuck, and he was super excited to see his wife with other men but especially with other women. All of the people were so fun to talk to and I know I'll have to hold back at the next meeting which will be the first sex party (a naked pool party) because I'll absolutely ruin the mood with all of my questions. There is a man who is the sub of the dominatrix (I'm not sure if they're married/a couple or not) but he is super into cbt (if you're like me and don't know what thar is it's "cock and ball torture", I know😬) it sounded very unpleasant and painful but he loves it and I promised him I'd try to do it to him at least once. He also just loves feet, and asked me to walk on him and I also said I'd try but I feel so nervous I'd hurt him, but they assured me it would be fine (and also said I could say no any time of course, they were not pushy at all).

We will also be taking professional rope bondage classes there as well as other classes of things in bdsm, and learn them safely. I am so excited for it!

I have so many other thoughts but it's just all a big ramble but I'm thinking I could get some of my thoughts unraveled here. Please also add your experiences because I'd love to hear!