This question goes for me a bit too. We both have agreed we enjoy everything more when we're both more vocal and talk a lot. For me, my issue isn't confidence, but thinking of things to say so there isn't dead air. Hers is she hasn't broken through her embarrassment wall enough yet to just say whatever she wants. She's still hesitant to speak a lot. My question for me is, what are some suggestions on things to say/talk about during to get her excited. My question for her is what are some ways I can ease her into being more vocal (by vocal, I mean more begging, more compliments toward, me, etc. Typical sub stuff)? I did try one time telling her that I would stop whatever I'm doing if she stopped making noise, and that worked alright, but I need some ideas to make her more comfortable with what she says.