So 2 years back I was in my local bdsm scene I had a dom and it was all sorts of fun I then got cuffed for 2yo with my now ex and we had a kid

I’ve decided I really like that side of me and now trying to get back into it I’m also trying to start an of with femboy content (not sissy stuff) for fun (and money)

Is there an easy way to meet and find a good dom (female) like I had before and does anyone have any suggestions for getting back into the scene (san bernadino county)

Also another note So over the years I’ve had a lot of guys hit on me and I’ve teased and flirted back for the attention but I ended up rejecting all of them because of past trauma and fears and I feel like the only way I would be comfortable with trying a bi sexual thing would be if it was me a girl I trust and a guy and even then I’d feel uncomfortable with anything going inside me But for some reason I love the attention Is this normal and is there a way to ease this fear