Good evening everyone. As the title says I need some help. However, let me give you some context (there is a lot 😑) . I (Male early thirties ) am a Pleasure Dom, so I don't just LIKE making my partner cum. I LOOOOOVE IT! It's honestly my favorite part of sex. Edging my partner until she can't think straight and them forcing her to cum over and over until she begs me to stop is quite possible the most fun and gratifying feeling I have had the privilege of experiencing. As luck would have it, my last ex was so sexually easy and hardy that she could cum again and again with very little effort. The experience left me spoiled, but it also showed me just how much enjoyment I get out of making my partner cum.

Here is the problem. I have been dating a lovely women (Female late twenties) for a little over two months now and we have had our ups and downs, but the experience has been all around lovely. However, despite being sexually active for almost that whole time, I have been unable to make her orgasm. Before you question my technique, I have tried everything. Fingers on clit, fingers on G-spot, oral, tit play for heightened sensitivity, my Hitachi, and combinations of all of the above. I even did my research and bought her a vibrator specifically catering to the kind of vibrations that she likes. None of these have gotten her there. It's not that she doesn't find me arousing. She tells me regularly how hot she thinks I am, and before you say "maybe she just can't cum," here is the other issue. According to her, she masturbates almost every day and can cum multiple times in a row. She even made a joke about how a car ride made her cum once, but no man has ever been able to do it. I appreciated the humor, but couldn't help feeling a bit frustrated. The final piece of the puzzle is that she gets so damn close! She makes all the usual cues that she is getting close (sometimes even literally telling me) but just as she is about to burst, she loses it and either awkwardly chuckles or disappointedly moans. It's honesty like a witch cursed her to get aroused but never climax.

All this to say, I am at a loss. The only thing I can think of is that she has told me about her terrible childhood and past abusive relationships, so all that trauma might be making her have trouble fully letting herself go and be vulnerable around me. Also, I did accidently build up how excited making my partner cum makes me when we talked about kinks, so she definitely has a little bit of performance anxiety. I do truly care for her and I am trying my best to be patient, but I would be lying if I said this wasn't starting to take a toll. Selfishly, I feel like I am getting nothing out of sex and as her partner, I feel inadequate for not being able to make her feel the ecstasy that is La petite mort.

Any thoughts or advice would be greatly appreciated.