Fetlife is pretty much dead, or has been dead when I’ve visited it. It’s kinda hard to meet people in the early 20s age range, cause it feels like most BDSM events cater to a slightly older crowd. Dating apps are a bit of a minefield cause I don’t wanna come of as the guy that’s actively trying to fuck everything that moves. It feels like there is no good subtle way to express an interest in it on tinder or hinge, without it becoming the only thing people are gonna see. It’s not like I need BDSM to enjoy a healthy sex life. Like I wanna talk about all kinds of things… and BDSM, when I meet people through any kind of BDSM forum they only want to talk about sex and kink when we talk and reject other topics. It’s also hard to know where to look that hasn’t been tainted by a fucking flood of horny men not even interested in kink or the lifestyle beyond how quickly it might get them in bed with someone.