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Hey y'all, hope I'm asking this in the right place. I'm a gay dude in hits 30's with a question. In the gay community we often use the terms top, bottom, and more recently side to indicate sexual role preference. You probably know already that top means insertive anal, bottom means receptive anal, and side means neither.
I'll keep the background brief and get to the question-- in most of my sexual interactions, I prefer the role of side. I play in the pup kink community which shares overlap with BDSM and with the leather, rubber, and other kink affinity groups. I've been curious about the leather community for a very long time but never let myself go further with it because at least in the gay leather community I've been exposed to, those dudes are into sexual activities and roles that fall outside what I normally enjoy. But I love the look and feel of it, all the gear is so amazing, looks great and feels so good to wear. But can a leather side exist?? I've never met one.
I told a friend recently that I'd never gotten into it because it felt like false advertising-- they see you in the leather kit and expect you're into a certain kind of sex that I'm not into. The friend agreed and expressed actually a similar reservation.
Love to hear anyone's thoughts who'd like to comment. Thank you.
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