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when i look up the qualities of the doms that are daddy doms and caregiver doms it’s what i’m attracted to. the ddlg dynamic includes little girl but is this just sexualizing my age regression ? my regression is always sfw it’s a real thing i use to cope w its my safe place and i regress involuntarily. or is “ddlg” something completely diff ?
"DD/lg" is just a label for the dynamic/roles, and needn't be about sex at all. Some DD and som lg like to include sex and sexualizing into the dynamic as well of course, but your boundaries are yours and if you want to be "lg" in just select spheres or anywhere but the bed, then that's your boundary. I can't say anything about how much of a threshold this may or may not be in finding the right person for you, since I really can't say how many expect sex to be a part of the role.
In short, a masochist or sadist person can also be asexual, their preferred role in a S/M dynamic doesn't have any inherent sexual preference.
Sometimes we forget to separate the role and the sex life because for so many they are one and the same. Being submissive is so all-encompassing to many (or most?) that it's naturally part of their sex life as well, and for many it's part of ONLY their sex life, etc. So there may be some form of expectations in play as well, if you're submissive, then you're submissive in bed. If you a little, then you're a little in bed, etc. Which is why it may be important to communicate the distinction for you to any prospective contacts so as to minimise any misunderstandings of course.
Exactly, the label mostly used when sex is involved is "age play", which again can be something only for the bed room, where the sex is role played to be with someone younger (I've never heard about Age Play where they pretend to be older, but maybe it exists, dunno).
And Age Play can certainly be a bit taboo, bordering on questions about morale, daddy issues, pedophilia and a lot of things. But it can also be a healthy safe space for a kink - and lots between. Some who engage in Age Play make a note of not specifying any particular age for their fantasites just to keep it away from any negative connotations. Some don't use titles like "daddy" or "daddy's girl" to refrain from those connotations. And some go all-in and like it and it's all great.
So yeah, you have to find your way through this of course, and be sure of what you're interested in, your boundaries and what you may be curious about to eventually explore.
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It can be both. Now, I'm the first to tell you to not go by labels and titles and find your way and your definition, but I'd say that "DD/lg" is a role dynamic, like "dom/brat" or "sadist / masochist" and "age play" is a kink.