Hello fellow Ds and all the lovely subs here. I'd like to take a moment to discuss something that's always on my mind. I often find that in a D/s dynamic punishment is either done with things that the sub also enjoys (spankings for example) or bordes on abuse. (Or even crosses the line for those abusers hiding behind the Dom/me title.)

I believe that in a healthy D/s dynamic that the D has a responsibility to help the s work through bad/negative habits and behaviors. Doing that through negative reinforcement (abusive type punishments) or just giving the sub something they want doesnt work to do correct those behaviors.

Therefore I propose that using positive reinforcement for punishments is much more effective. It gives the sub a way to be disciplined while also reinforcing positive and healthy behaviors.

Case in point, today my sub was having a moment of feeling very self loathing and gave me an attitude when I corrected her. So, I made her write lines in order to enforce the idea of being deserving of grace. This is something she doesn't enjoy doing and also will serve as a positive reminder next time she starts to fall into a similar behavior.