I'm wondering how common this is and if others have come across this. Aside from the high number of "fake doms", something I'm encountering with men who are new to the lifestyle is that they claim to be dominant, but are actually submissive. They don't know how to go about dominating, want to be taught, give wishy washy answers like "whatever you want to do" instead of taking the lead.

It seems as though they identify as dominant because it's what's expected of men and they're interested in sex acts that their more vanilla partners weren't interested in, but they really don't know how to be dominant. My last partner literally told me "you could have taken the time to teach me, I would have done anything you wanted if only you had explained it to me". This after I explained my limits and boundaries, explained what type of domination I was looking for and made many scene suggestions. He just didn't take the lead on anything and I ended it because the lack of clarity was getting extremely frustrating.

I'm a switch, so in a way I'd be ok with playing Domme, but do you have any tips on making them realize that they'd be happier in the submissive role without making them feel emasculated?