Hi all,

I'd like to explore forced orgasms more, and I'm wondering about tools for it. I already have the magic wand rechargeable, and the actual vibrator isn't the issue.

I've done scenes several different ways, but one of the things that really appeals to me is how hot it is to watch someone squirm with no choice. I'm not a rope person, so thus far I've used cuffs attached to my bed for a spread-eagle position, and also done as spreader bar at the thighs with the help of one of my partners who knows rope well.

What I've noticed is the thigh spreader bars are tough to get to stay, and take a long time to attach well. The squirming is both understandable and intense, so I'm wondering what other options I have. Two questions specifically:

• Are the wand harnesses that attach to one leg like the (this one) good for this type of play? Would I still need a spreader bar then?
• Are there good thigh-spreader bars that are very flexible with body shape? I enjoy this type of play with several people, and everything I see on thigh spreader bars requires fairly specific sizing.

Thanks for any input!!!