I’m a submissive (42 f) and I’ve been struggling with yo-yoing weight for a while now. I’d like to drop 20lbs and keep it off but I’m finding myself doing a lot of emotional eating lately—partly driven by my polyamory relationship issues. I probably weigh 40lbs more than my meta, and I’m self conscious about it. It’s not helpful in motivating me to do anything except binge eat, but my own weight goals predate this partner.

My primary partner acts as my Dom, but he’s really more of a “Daddy” personality and he’s not good at firm boundaries for me. Despite him saying that he wants to help/make this part of our dynamic, and me trying to set up two different apps, and multiple conversations about reward/punishment systems, we just aren’t getting anywhere. I’m beginning to feel resentful that he’s not keeping up his end of the teamwork.

Lots of questions: - It doesn’t have to be weight loss specifically, but has anyone successfully implemented a healthy system for progress goals? What worked for you? - How have you (as a sub) gotten more active engagement from your Dom on your goals? - How do you keep jealousy and emotions about other partners out of your D/s dynamic so you can focus on just your dynamic and goals?