So I posted yesterday about wanting to spank my SO.

https://www.reddit.com/r/BDSMcommunity/comments/1ckxsrs/my_so_is_open_to_getting_spanked_but_isnt_sure/?ref=share&ref_source=link

Today I did. I asked her ahead of time and she said that was fine with it. We fooled around a bit first. I came, she came, then she wanted to cum again with a toy. In the reading I've done a lot of people mentioned trying to link the spanking to pleasurable sensations so it seemed like the perfect time. I want to try spanking for the sexual gratification and not punishment spankings or maintenance spankings or anything like that.

"Can you cum lying face down?"

"I can try!"

"Would it be uncomfortable for you to lie across my lap?"

"We can find out!"

So that's what she did. She got her toy, and stretched out across my lap on the bed, her bare ass right in front of me. Fuck. We should do that even when I'm not going to spank her. So sexy.

I did what people suggested. Started off slow. Rubbing, kneading, massaging. Then I started with light spanks and built up. I didn't do any kind of stinging spanks, more thuddy, percussive spanks with the cupped hand people talked about. In between spanks, I ran my fingers over her booty to kind of caress it. I didn't go crazy. Her booty was barely red after I was done. I couldn't tell if she was into it, but I fucking loved it. I don't like hurting her, and I don't think I was much. It wasn't about that. I guess it was about me having my hands on her ass while she was cumming...what's not to like? I guess I don't need to know WHY it turned me on. It just did.

Anyway, she came. If felt to me like she came much quicker than she usually does when she cums a second time. But maybe that was my imagination.

I asked her afterwards if she liked it. She said it was neutral. She neither liked it, nor disliked it, but she liked that I liked it, and is willing to try again.

As far as I'm concerned that's second best case scenario (after "That was amazing lets do that all the time") because if shes willing to try again I can get better and focus more on learning all the things that she likes.

Thanks for all the advice! I can wait to get her back into the sack again.