I've been almost driven to insanity with this. I'm a little and that's the only thing I can surely describe myself as but am I a dominant, a submissive or a switch?

Let's call the other person in the relationship (boyfriend, partner, fiancé ect) "daddy" but not say if he'd a Daddy dom or daddy sub

Here's on why I'd be a sub:

• I need lots of reassurance, cuddles ect
• I want to have rules set for me
• I want to be used in certain scenes and always be told that I'm not allowed to do some things because I'm "lesser than" ect (like "you're too little to decide what to wear, I'll decide it for you"
• I want to be set within certain boundaries and be called good girl for sticking to them and get a punishment for disobeying
• I have a great need to please daddy
• I want to depend on daddy and be able to come and trust that he'll handle whatever I can't handle
• I want to be collared and "owned" by daddy
• I get overwhelmed with much responsibility and would like daddy to help guide through them
• I want to be collared with a pretty collar so fucking bad

Some of my top fantasies include being "kidnapped" by daddy and he'd put me into a cage and then use me however he likes (gently of course), being a dumb bimbo who daddy "manipulates" into becoming his sex slave that he also shows off to people and being a lady in distress when daddy comes and saves me and brings me into a safe place where he'll very gently train me into becoming his ideal wife (ideal wife being me the way I am but spoiled, I hope...).

Here's on why I'd be a dom:

• I'm a control freak about majority of stuff (not related to OCD or anything else)
• I prefer having things my way
• I want to be a safe place for daddy
• I want to be able to command daddy and for him to do whatever I want
• I want for daddy to worship me and my body like I'm a goddess he'd sacrifice his left leg to if I asked (like he'd beg to suck my finger and he'd feel so blessed with just that tiny bit that he could jerk off to it)
• I want daddy to have extremely strong desires to please me and do everything he can to please me
• I want for daddy to beg for me about the simplest stuff like it's a big blessing if I ect hug him
• I want for him to want me have... Uh I don't know how to explain it otherwise but I want the following scenario be true; "daddy wants for little (me) to own as much of and about him as possible"
• I want as much freedom to do anything I want (within the agreed rules)
• I want to see daddy beg for me to get into a chastity cage so I could "own his dick and keep him protected" and get very turned on every time he remembers he's in a cage so fucking bad

I don't have any specific fantasies about this but the setting of daddy in "omg you're the best thing on this earth, yes I'll lick your dirty shoes clean and I enjoy it because it's YOURS" -type of obsessive begging a stable in lots of the stuff I dream of.

Am I a switch because I want both but then again, I've seen everyone say that switches are sometimes doms and sometimes subs like on/off switch. But I'm everything at once?? I don't want to and I don't think if I can just turn off all these needs and wants and choose to be either dom or sub today. I don't think I'm a switch because I can't,... Switch..?

What the fuck am I?? How do I categorize myself in fetlife? Should I be looking for a sub or a dom in bdsm dating???

I just want to be the sweet princess of pastel candyland, admired by people with someone who's absolutely obsessed with me and obeys but also makes sure I'm not doing anything a princess shouldn't be doing... Such as breaking the rules.