I (F29) have been interested in BDSM and learning more about the community for a long time now. I consider myself to be submissive but haven’t ever been able to really get into the community to actually find out. I’m extremely shy and if i’m being honest afraid of exploring my sexuality. People always suggest going to a munch or getting on Fetlife, but those options make me so self conscious. I’m not “conventionally attractive” and so i don’t really like to put myself out there. But i know in my heart I would make a really good sub if I was able to get out of my shell and find a Dom.

I want a Dom so bad and it’s not even for the sexual aspect of it, while it would be nice to get my brains fucked out, I just want to belong to someone. I want my needs and wellbeing to mean something to someone. I want to be babied and taken care of and I also want to take care of someone else’s needs how ever they need me too. I want to trust another human with my life, to know that they have my best interest in heart and that i don’t have to use my brain around them because they will handle everything. I want intimacy and pleasure. I want to give myself completely, to submit.