Gentle Dom with Daddy and Primal Tendencies here. Been in the lifestyle for 10 years, and as a Dom for five.

One of the many things I enjoy about BDSM is the structure and discipline it provides both D and s.

I get a lot of happiness and pleasure out of helping a sub not only be the best they can be as a submissive but as a person as well. Part of that is holding her accountable to take care of herself and practice good habits.

The question is, who holds me accountable for those things? One can maybe argue that a Dominant should have the level of self discipline where they don’t need anyone to hold them accountable. If that’s the case, maybe I need to explore my submissive side? I do need someone to hold me accountable. Someone beyond a friend and/or accountability partner.

A little lost here and would love some advice.