First time asking a question here. Excited to hear your experience.

Working with a new partner, and she loves to brat. Thankfully not all the snide rude comments, just disobedience when we’re in scene… there seem to be layers of complicating factors that make it hard to navigate.

One theory that I’ve heard is that Brad is simply a trust issue and their testing to see if you in charge. While I like the symmetry of this concept, my concern is, it will leave nuance out of the picture, and always simply return to more dominance as an answer to any bratting. maybe that is the answer but, would love any nuanced thoughts.

Some complicating factors: 1. She loves impact play and might just the asking for more with bratting 2. We sometimes play with cnc which makes bratting seem quite reasonable in that roleplay. 3. I definitely still have a chip on my shoulder that bratting is rude and, can successfully metabolize that frustration in the scene, but I don’t want the brat part to feel unwelcome. I want every part of her to be welcomed.

Open to hearing from dom, subs and brats alike.