Hope it's okay for me to rant here. I bet a lot of you can relate.

I'm an outgoing, independent, direct woman. I'm also tall, busty and just have a tough look to me. Sturdy gal. Can plow the fields lol.

Both in and out of relationships I have no problem speaking my mind and standing up for myself if I have to. But I'm not domineering. Like at all. Once I really like a guy I'm very oooey gooey, agreeable, with a masochistic streak. I have switch tendecies but honestly I'm pretty submissive especially with sex.

I feel like people just make all kinds of unfair assumptions about me being super domineering and I think I cannot have relationship because of this. This is not just my assessment. My last LTR was pretty good. It was with a Dom but he would complain that I wasnt aggressive enough and wasn't fighting back... i think he liked dominating dominant women and i wasnt like what he built up in his head. I was very gentle usually.

The other day I was chatting with my guy friend and he just casually says how I must be very domineering in relationships and It annoyed me. Pretty sure no guy I've ever been with would call me that. I feel like people see that I'm strong and outgoing and assume I will stomp their balls and don't actually care to know the real me.

I can only be myself though. I have become a bit less submissive over the years but not really more domineering. Not sure I can actually be vulnerable like that anymore tbh. Takes a lot of trust to let go especially when guys are disappointed by my sweetness