Hi, everybody! I’m seeking some advice as to how to tackle the internalised kink shaming that I’ve been experiencing as I explore my DD/lg fetish.

For context, I (28F) grew up in a fairly sexually repressed environment, and I was in an emotionally and sexually abusive relationship for most of my teens and early twenties, wherein his sexual needs were prioritised over mine, and I didn’t feel safe exploring my sexuality. We broke up when I was 23, and I spent the next five years single and celibate while I worked my issues out in therapy.

I am in a very good place now, and over the last year, I have begun experimenting with sex and kink. I discovered some months ago that I’m a switch, and when I’m in subspace, I prefer to call my partner Daddy; but thus far, it’s been less about incest/age-play and more about power exchange. I like using the word because it implies a kind of nurturing patriarchal authority that I crave when submitting.

Lately, though, I have been fantasising in more and more explicit detail about specific scenarios that heavily involve the incest/age-play aspects—for example, sitting on Daddy’s lap in a cute pair of pink pyjamas, Daddy teaching me how to fuck so that I know how to please boys, the sex being a secret, etc. And although I consider myself a very sex- and kink-positive person, I have been struggling with some feelings of shame and self-loathing for wanting this.

I think it comes down to the fact that I find the idea of a father actually sexually interacting with his daughter utterly repulsive. I’m struggling to separate my fantasies from that particular reality, and I’m wondering if any of you wonderful people have advice as to how I can tackle this issue. This is a side of myself that I want to explore, but right now I feel very stifled by feelings of self-inflicted judgment.

Thanks in advance,

Freyja x