I have a history with porn (starting at 11, with occasional shocking/regretful moments), and in spite of my 'og' kinks remaining even as an adult, I find myself extremely interested and open to exploring all manner of kinks (excluding scat, vomit, extreme violence, extreme ageplay, etc).

The thing is, how can I tell if I'm just naturally more kinky and/or in an explorative stage of my life vs being increasingly desensitised to vanilla/'regular' sex? My kinks have developed into extremes of common fetishes, some extremely taboo from where they started. Sometimes it's not even the kink but the newness and taboo element that attracts me now.

This attracted me initially too, but with incredibly tame sexual themes back then. But I'm unsure if this is just the organic, natural progression of having kinks (that they become more elaborate and extreme over time) or me being desensitised to the years of amateur porn, smut and audios that have changed how I think about sex.

After around age 15, I began grounding myself and the context of fantasy/porn in relation to reality and real sex and intimacy. I understand that fantasies are made to appeal, and that porn is an industry, and that real sex can be anything to any 'level' or degree of extremity (or the opposite). But still, how do you healthily navigate the growth of kinks without both ceasing them and facilitating unnatural or unhealthy devolvement?