I was thinking about the idea of out-of-dynamic discussions in a more lifestyle BDSM relationship and how to transition between the out-of-dynamic and back to in-dynamic. Knowing when that transition happens can be gradual, seamless, and natural, but misreading signals can leave someone feeling not heard, not valued, not respected, or pressured. As someone who can struggle with missing signals or over reading, having a clear signals would help. Made me think of “Game on?”, “Game on!”.

Which made me think of the scene in Wayne’s World when they’re playing hockey in the street. In that scene, when ever a car is coming, Wayne calls out “Car!” And Garth replies with “Car!” They clear the street, get safe, and when the danger clears, Wayne calls “Game on!” And Garth replies with “Game on!”

As silly as it may seem to use that inspiration, it seems like a wonderful way to ensure that a safeword is heard, and when everything is back to a safe place and ready to resume, everyone gives their consent to do so with a simple call and response as well. If no one responds to “car”, then you know you have to call it again (More than twice might mean bigger issues…). And if no one responds to “Game on”, then you know you can’t resume and the danger’s not clear.

What are your thoughts on this as a way to use safewords? Do you have similar but a different example as to what words you use for stop and resume? Would the silly reference of “Car”/“Game on” actually work well to catch attention and possibly bring down intensity? (I personally like “Game on” either way because this should be fun!)