Hi all! I recently went to a kink event for the first time and was lucky enough to get flogged by someone who evidently knew what they were doing. I was enthusiastically consenting and I had fun but in the moment I could tell there was something about the scene that made me not be there 100%, but I couldn’t tell exactly what and I was enjoying myself so I wanted to continue. I don’t at all regret the experience and I’d do it again but in hindsight I can now tell what about the scene I wasn’t enjoying - for example a bit too much pain for my tastes and too little gentle touches inbetween flogging for variance(I knew the person was comfortable with this as they did do it, but I would have just liked even more of it)

My question is how do I navigate trying new things with a brain like mine that has a hard time figuring out exactly what it likes and doesn’t until the next day? I don’t feel at all uncomfortable by the experience and I’m glad I had it, so is it fine to “learn” things in this way even if you maybe aren’t 100% there in the moment when you are having the scene? I think I’m getting in my head trying to figure out if I’m having a good time or not or something. Is this just common for newbies? I was just hoping for some thoughts on this. Thanks!