I'm attending a kink conference soon (my first) with my Dom. He and I are in the beginning stages of creating our dynamic. We are both polyamorous and excited for each other to date and play with others, though neither of us are really looking right now.

The topic of whether I'm/we're going to do any pick up play with others at the con came up. He told me that he would like to know if I'd like to play with any one, and that he is leaving it up to me to decide whether they will need to ask his permission to play with me. He is incredibly thoughtful, intentional, and caring. So I don't actually expect that he will tell me no if I want to do it. But ownership and control are a couple of my biggest kinks so the idea of needing permission is incredibly hot to me.

However, my concern is whether that's going to make me undesirable to potential play partners. For those with experience at BDSM play parties, is it common to ask doms for permission to play with their subs? I can imagine some tops would like asking to borrow a toy or use an object as part of the game. But it might be that folks aren't into asking anyone else to play with someone, which I also totally get. So just wondering if it's something common?