(apologies in advance :(, this is longer than my typical posts)

Hey hey subs and Dom's 👋,

I come to you all tonight with something that I need some light shed on. So I'm at the point where I'm ready to move onto the next stage of my BDSM journey, so far it's been fairly light with light restraints and basic tape/ball gags. Lately I've been craving a more extreme experience, panel gags, nipple clamps, prostate stimulators, basically everything I can get my hands on at once. For a very long time my dream (to the point of obsession) has been to wear a latex outfit, leather body harness (designed for women specifically) or both during bondage and I have reached the stage where I have both the knowledge and the means.

There is one fairly significant reason that's stopping me from taking the plunge however. I am a man, and my desire to wear latex and harnesses has come entirely from seeing it worn by women in and out of bondage Of course this shouldn't matter as anyone is entitled to wear any clothing they wish, but it still does worry me that I may not be able to feel the same pleasure that a woman would otherwise feel from the same experience. To compound this I also have an extremely strong desire to perform some other light cross-dressing during this latex/harness bondage session (mainly just to simulate the appearance of breasts) and maybe a wig. I can't say why, it has simply been a desire of mine for a long time and I'm still not sure how I feel about it to be totally honest.

So I had two goals in mind for this post. The first being to see if anyone here has had a similar experience to the one I've detailed and how you personally dealt with it. Of course the opposite also applies, the specific genders are not overly important rather just the situation itself. The second being any particular recommendations for body harnesses and latex outfits for those that are or have used them.

Again, sorry for the long length of this post. I usually try to keep it short and sweet but this is a pretty personal part of my life which I have not shared, so I've never had to explain it before. Hopefully it makes sense outside of my head 😬. So far the people in this group have been nothing but helpful and kind during my short time here so my hopes are high, I look forward to hearing from everyone!