Hey y’all back with another stupid conundrum I could use some insight on!

I had 3 doms, with my primary dom being a very experienced and extreme sadist and we did all kinds of crazy stuff. Unfortunately, he had to end our dynamic and I am gutted.

Pain is the name of my game…. And where I’ve been with my primary dom, I can’t foresee impact play and nipple clamps doing it for me… intense impact play is my favorite and was often used as an “appetizer” with my primary dom. I’m absolutely freaking out about not being able to find that deep subspace again….. one dom is newer to kink and does have quite the heavy hand with impact play and I think he would be open to the idea of more intense play, but I’m an anxious mess about bringing it up.

How can I broach the subject of potentially more intense play? I don’t want him to feel pressured, or that he needs to do it to satisfy me…. And I don’t want him to do it just to please me… how can I ask rather than pressure or demand? I don’t want to top from the bottom, but I’m just a bit more experienced than he is and I want to introduce him to the fun of its somethings he’s interested in too… like how would you start the convo… I am terrified of making him feel inadequate or insecure rather I want to encourage exploration… but every time I type that text it messes with me and I end up deleting it. Can someone give me some example phrases/ convo starters?

Ugh I’m a mess!!