’Ello everyone. A play partner of mine and I (I am a sadist and top, they are a switch but in our play they bottom and explore their masochist side) have been discussing doing some genital torture type play. This is something I’ve been interested in for quite some time, and I am excited to explore this with them. We want to start slow, obviously, and main things that they are interested in is hot wax, temperature play, and impact; as time goes on, we want to move up to clamps and other such more intense forms of genitorture.

Is anyone aware of any books, articles, FetLife groups or writings, etc. that have good information on the risks of engaging in this kind of play and how to do so as safely (or at least in the least-unsafe way) as feasible?

For reference:

1) they have a vulva, but front hole penetration of any kind is not on the table.

2) I have a wide variety of toys of all kinds, mainly impact toys but also hot wax candles, fireplay implements and tools, and a decent electro kit.

3) We are also into erotic hypnosis though we are both very much beginners, in case there are some ways that might be incorporated.