I'm a service sub and I've been on my own, without a Dominant, for about 5 years now. I've met people here and there who are mostly interested or experienced in BDSM as a bedroom dynamic and that's ok but I really need a full time dynamic to feel fulfilled. And it honestly helps me feel grounded and like the best version of myself. I feel like something is missing when I can't serve, or dont have anyone to be accountable to... that kind of thing

After 5 years, I guess I've gotten pretty used to it, but lately I've been dealing with some heavy things and big decisions that need to be made. I find myself physically yearning so be seated at the feet of my Dominant, sharing my fears and burdens, and feeling safe and protected, and like I'll have guidance and care. I've wondered if sitting on the floor to think would help me feel better in some way but I truly don't know.

This isn't something I can really discuss with friends or family or people who don't understand what it means to BE a sub, or have lost that kind of full time dynamic.

Im wondering what others do in this situation. How do you replicate some of those feelings of safety and grounding, especially during hard times, when you don't have the benefit of a dominant?