Had an amazing experience at the weekend with a dom. Had tried to do everything 'right', like met him for a coffee beforehand just to chat, had been talking for a while & had all the important discussions including about aftercare & he seemed to be really caring about it all, really keen to be safe for both of us, all good things. The experience itself was absolutely mind blowing for me, I enjoyed it so much. At the time he expressed that he had had fun too & would like to do it again...

Not it's not that I've not heard from him since & he has said in some msgs that he's taken ages to reply cos he's been busy, or sleeping, or whatever, which in itself is fair enough but for 4 days now I feel like I've barely heard from him, as opposed to the relatively frequent messages beforehand - they were never all day long or anything but I'd usually get at least a few over the evening & yesterday I got none at all & he's not even read my last message from yesterday afternoon.

I think I probably know the answer to this but - am I about to be ghosted? I was the one who started out with this guy being clear I just wanted fun so I feel really awkward (& frankly like a bit of a hypocrite) now wondering what's going on & wanting to know why I've not heard from him much. I was particularly low myself the last couple of days & a friend pointed out I probably had sub-drop & said the guy also should have been aware of that possibility & checking in on me, especially as it was my first full-on experience of a lot of things.

Now I'm not sure what to do? Is a message to just ask him where I stand ok, or will that just piss/scare him off?? If he's not interested anymore I wish he'd just say rather than leaving me hanging.