My gf 24F and I (25M) are each other firsts in everything sexual. She wasn't even sexually active before me and till now she mostly knows about vanilla sex. She has a basic idea of femdom and bdsm in general. Till now I have a quite a few times sent femdom pics/gifs while sexting....she really enjoyed it and said she would do it to me.....but never really does more maybe tying me up or slight orgasm control.

The issue is she never like to discuss or talk about this stuff....she is like what's is to discuss just do it when in mood.

Once she made me kneel and made me lick her up and some slaps and hair pulls.....but after this she was like she enjoyed it a alot but don't want to it.... because she thinks this will take love out of sex..... And I am also sensing she is really scared that she will hurt me so she never really punishes me. Like once she threatened me she will ruin my orgasm if I failed to make her cum with finger.... which I failed and she was like now I am going to ruin your orgasm and then she didn't do it because she said how she it end with both of having orgasm. I really love her so much for thinking like this but I wanted to sometimes be cruel to me aswell

And honestly I don't want this to a 24/7 dynamic..... but I probably for a weekend I wish to her slave.

Since she doesn't like to discuss I don't know how to take it to the next level.

She dominant naturally and I am really submissive guy....that much I have realised clearly.

We a few days back has a video call when she made me edge over and over and told she really enjoyed watching me suffer.

What I need advice is how I can teach her more stuff without making it awkward for her. I may be sounding like I am too demanding and selfish.

Kinks I wish to make get understand is petplay, some humiliation, foot worship, some impact play, be harsher and strict to me.