I recently started dating a submissive whose acts and words towards me feel absolutely amazing. I have been doing fetish/kink/BDSM for a very long time, and I have one of the strongest near-instant attractions that I’ve ever had to someone with her.

She hits all markers of the things I want from a submissive partnership except for one: she is poly and has a (long distance) Dominant. I lean much more monogamous but am familiar and comfortable with non-monogamy, and was in a (admittedly disastrous) poly relationship some years ago.

This woman seems to be much more on-the-level with how she does poly than my previous polyamorous partners; her communication is great so far, her boundaries are healthy, she gives herself in what feels like a very full-manner when she’s with me (she isn’t distracted by other partners or if she’s going to text or communicate with one of them, she’s very respectful).

One of the things that I really want from a relationship is to have an ownership-based dynamic. She gets off on us playing with the concept and while it’s still way too new to be discussing actual ownership or collaring, she responds very well to the play/fantasy elements of it and our sexual chemistry is off the charts.

We have talked a bit about potentially having some sort of future encounter with her serving both her long distance Dom and myself, and she was very excited to talk about it.

While that’s a bit outside of my normal comfort zone (I have only done cuckolding in terms of threesomes with other guys), she makes me feel very secure so far and I trust her intentions and her words; and her actions so far seem to line up with what she’s says.

Im curious to hear from anyone who identifies as submissive and has multiple owners of any sort, and how you navigate the intense emotions that can connect people in those sorts of dynamics.

This is a new area for me, but one that I want to explore with her.