I'm a 37M. I've always been interested in bdsm for as long as I can remember, and always have told my previous partners about it and done it with them. I've been too hesitant to bring it up in current relationships with my GF (18F), since it feels she is too fragile and fairly inexperienced, which have all been pretty vanilla in terms of sex.

I've been seeing this girl for 3 months. She's amazing but I haven't told her about my sexual interests because I'm pretty much terrified she's going to think I'm a freak or something haha. I don't remember how it happened but one day we were fucking and I just in the heat of the moment pulled her head back with her hair and put my hand around her throat and ever since she's said it's the hottest thing.

I asked her why and she just said she likes when I'm in control. So now I do that kind of stuff, hold her arms down sometimes, and usually get more aggressive. However I tried talking to her once about tying her up or something and she didn't seem interested (couldn't tell if she just wasn't into it or if it weirded her out that I brought it up), she was basically like "ok you're gonna tie me up and then what?" Sorta like saying what's the point.

So anyways I'm super turned on by the sex were having now but I'm frustrated because I wanna take it further and while she seems like she'd be into it if she let go of her inhibitions, I feel like she'd think it's super weird if I brought any of this up.

I'm not looking to just spice up the bedroom, either, though that'd be nice. I really want to introduce BDSM stuff into our entire relationship if shes willing. I just don't know how to bring all this up. :-/