Earlier I asked the doms of BDSMCommunity if being a dom/seeing yourself as the alpha (and we not talkin the toxic masculinity alpha) impacted your role as a dom.

The majority of people said no. I ask because I went out with this 'dom' who spent a lot of time hyping me up and then when we went on a date and I showed up to his house in a tiny black dress and some heels he kind of just...deflected and blamed it on his career transition and that he doesn't feel confident.

I wanna believe he is genuine however on our date at his literal house I noticed several red flags in the way he was acting and a lack of attention I was recieving. I am a slutty sub but I am also very independent as a woman and I have very strict rules about my sexual relationships.

The main one being if you wanna do this, fine, but don't entertain other bitches while you fuckin me. You wanna claim your the alpha/dom but you literally have a sub in front of you who has clearly told you multiple times your permissions and has literally begged you to fuck her and you are not taking it because you say your job is impacting you? But his phone started blowing up at the end of our date and then he left me outside w his fucking roomate for like 10 minutes. Like do you think I haven't been around the block?

Your job shut your dick off? Plleaaasse never met a dom who didn't pull his dick out if a slutty sub was begging for it. And you guys when I say he hyped me up he was talking about how he wanted to fuck me, choke me etc etc and then we hang out face to face and he just. Didn't do thing. I came dressed slutty on purpose and was totally like...ignored in that way.

For context we used to work together for a few yrs and we hit it off then so when he approached me I thought he was serious. But according to a lot of ya'll it seems like he is not and infact since my original post he has been no contact.

Cool. Seems like shit came full circle.