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Hi everyone, I want to share some thoughts about aftercare
So, I recently had a scene with someone (not a close friend but someone I know and trust) specifically because they had the skills to a practice I wanted to try
The scene went really well and I would love to do it again, but what happens? This is not a person I have an emotional connection with
When I was going to their place, I stopped and bought myself a beef for after the scene, my thoughts were:
What do I need as aftercare? I'll get myself a beer
And so that's how I identified two types of aftercare
1) where you have an emotional connection with your play partner
2) where you don't have an emotional connection with your play partner
My aftercare usually consists of cuddles and kisses, when I'm topping, my aftercare even consists on giving my bottom their aftercare, but all of these only makes sense to me because I have a deep love for the people I usually play with
In the case of that scene, I like the person but we're just people who know each other, so I felt like I needed another way of getting aftercare, and I thought, getting a beer and talking would do it for me
It was perfect, we also had pizza and talked a lot which was fun (they still did their own thing, hugged me a bit just after finishing, which was nice, and made sure I was okay, and I also asked them if they were fine)
And now I wanted to see your own thoughts, do you do different aftercare routines based on if you have an emotional connection with the person or not? (This was the first time I had a whole scene with someone in this situation, so it was a new situation for me)
What are your go to routines in each case?
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