My gf and I are hoping to take advantage of a rare opportunity to play and have sex soon, but the last time we tried such, there was a slight hiccup.

We talked a bit about our kinks, and one of mine is degradation, especially affectionate degradation. To that end, we arrived at a list of names for her to call me. After having that discussion it feels like those names was pretty much the full extent of the dirty talk going on, which felt... idk, not sufficient? I couldn't really get fully aroused because with just the names I felt myself focusing strictly on the physical sensations happening - which is a problem due to both inexperience and my own personal need for an emotional connection before I can get into the headspace we were shooting for - I'm not sure how best to ask for more variety though. The names do feel good, but I feel like I need a sense of narrative, a sense of stakes or emotional investment in the specific acts happening rather than just being called names for the sake of being called names. I told her as much, but it's a bit abstract and I'm not sure how to make more specific suggestions. It doesn't help that my dirty talk instincts are way filthier than I feel like she'd be comfortable with, and we're trying to go slow.

I thought of maybe like, asking her to tell me what she wants me to do, what she's going to do to me, or ask how things feel or making me repeat what she calls me, but even those seem a bit broad. I think it might be helpful to have specific phrases to suggest to her but I'm struggling coming up with such from the dominant perspective. I'd appreciate suggestions for such dirty talk or even just tips on getting my thoughts in order to come up with such myself.