There is an such an intensity to the soft side of of BDSM that no one seems to explore. I have began to notice a common trend within the masses, in fact I think it’s preliminary to establish that bdsm exposure has become the reason for rough sex culture to reach peak heights.

When a new product is launched in the market, most of the audience will go out of their way to buy it, none the less if they can afford it or not. Even the ones that can’t attain it will surely bluff ownership.

To me bdsm has become something of the same sorts. Whether it’s in the form of a man who doesn’t know the first letter of domination but identifies as the tough guy and pretends to carry all the responsibilities that come with it but it’s just a disguise to be pleased and dispose as he desires maybe in a more harmful way then anyone cares to admit.

Usually it’s quite easy to find such suspected individuals but young vulnerable girls completely new to the scene and exploring may find it hard to discern, given I was one of them at one point.

“Rough” is the new vanilla of bdsm and that’s perfectly fine, to each their own but I do always wonder where the people of the other side of spectrum have migrated to.

The ones that prefer silence over using harsh words with their submissive, holding her in your grasp as you slowly undo her dress and even the brattiest of them wouldn’t move because your gaze holds enough power to make them hold their breath. To hold hands together and she’d keep them there until you move them yourself. For her whimpers to echo against you until she indulges enough permission to moan into ecstasy with you. To stay and do exactly what she is made to do because that one look in your eye is enough for her to give you her hand to lead the way. You certainly do not have to rough her up for you to be in charge or demand your way into submission to pay homage to your desires.

Guidance can happen without the eloquence of words.

Restraints can me tied without the need of cuffs.

An obedient mind can be groomed without the need of manipulation.

Claim can be harvested without the need of permission.